Ephesians 4:26 states ‘Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:’
People get upset for many different reasons. Perhaps they feel they have been done wrong, they feel their family has been done wrong, they feel like no one is listening to them, and the list could continue.
The subject of anger could be a long discussion. There are many books on it, and to write a short blog will only allow an extremely abbreviated discussion on the subject.
Anger is an emotion! There are many emotions. Jealousy, sadness, happiness, irritation, envy… Many emotions, if dwelt on, can lead to anger. Emotions are not necessarily wrong. If left unchecked, they can definitely be wrong though. What becomes wrong, is the actions taken because of the emotions.
#1 – We must learn to control our emotions!
Emotions cannot be completely helped. If something happens, you immediately have an emotional response. You must learn to reign in those emotions. Our initial emotional response to a situation, is based only upon our personal interpretation of the situation. A one-sided view of a situation is never a complete view. We don’t know the full set of circumstances.
So first, we must feel free to have a conversation with whoever else is involved. We must learn to accept others thoughts and viewpoints. (Even if we don’t agree, we should give the courtesy and respect of allowing others to be themselves.) We also must realize, NO ONE is ALWAYS right!
Secondly, we must learn that emotions left unchecked, lead to us being in the wrong! Look at Galations 5:22-23 ‘But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance.’ I don’t read in their the words anger, envy, sadness, depression, etc.
#2 – Don’t act based solely on emotion!
Put plainly…don’t ‘Act First – Think Later’! We must ‘THINK FIRST – ACT LATER’!
If we act first, we are acting based solely on emotion. If that emotion is anger, and we act based on that, we are not exhibiting a Christian characteristic! Didn’t Jesus Himself teach to turn the other cheek!
I have learned that most of the time when facing a situation, if given time, it’s not quite so serious as I thought it to be at first. Most of the time, I find it doesn’t even warrant any time or attention.
Learn to let things go…quit reacting…and learn to love.